7 Topics a New Couple Must Discuss
Posted: Saturday, August 04, 2007
by Mr. Causey
http://mrcauseytutors.com
Marriage is one of the greatest and most important institutions of mankind. Yet, people spend more time planning the wedding and the honeymoon than choosing their mate.
But, how one chooses a mate should not be left to mere chance. If you are planning to marry one day take the time to list what you desire in a mate. Then begin looking for the person you have described.
Here are seven topics a new couple must discuss before they tie the knot.
1. Money
One of the greatest problems a new couple faces is agreeing on how to manage money. It is very important for a new couple to agree on how they will budget, spend and save their money. If one person in the marriage is a spender and the other is a saver there definitely will be tension. The best way to ease this tension is to agree on a plan ahead of time and stick to it. The couple must agree on a budget plan, a savings plan and how money will spent.
2. Faith
A couple must not wait till they are married to decide how they will worship or if they will worship at all. It is quite important to know if you agree on fundamental beliefs and if the differences will create a problem when the children arrive. Couples must discuss the topic of faith ahead of time or it will be the down fall of the union.
3. Children
How are you going to rear your children? A topic that will create many arguments if it is not dealt with in the beginning. A couple must agree on the discipline, schooling, and faith training of their children. Many families have been destroyed because the parents didn’t agree on the methods used to rear their children.
4. Sex
Believe it or not a couple needs to discuss sex. If each partner doesn’t understand the needs of the other partner then the marriage is doomed. Sex is wonderful and integral part of marriage but not everyone has the same concept of sex or what sex includes. A couple must discuss what they believe to be a satisfying sex life. If this issue is ignored someone is bound to be disappointed or shocked.
5. Career
A couple should discuss how they feel about the other’s choice of career. They must be able to accept each other’s career and understand how careers affect the family. It’s important to agree on family roles and child rearing with respect to career choices. As long as the couple agrees on the same roles there shouldn’t be any problems.
6. Politics
Although politics can be the easiest one to live with even if you are not in agreement, it should still be discussed. You want to be sure that what your future mate believes-in is something you can tolerate. Ideally, you want to have the same perspective on life, but it isn’t a must. Many couples have survived the politics issue.
7. In-laws
Last but certainly not least, a couple better discuss the in-laws. There must be an agreement on how you are going to deal with the involvement of the in-laws. The in-laws can destroy a marriage quicker than anything else including adultery. The new couple should realize they are now a family and must live as one on their own. The in-laws should be consulted for advice and seen as an example but not as the final word. If this is not dealt with in the beginning, the marriage is doomed.
Don’t be afraid to make lists, ask questions and discuss uncomfortable topics in the beginning. It will save you time and prevent future heartaches. Now, take your time and put a little extra effort into finding Mr. or Ms. Right and you might just find them.
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